Why a Podcast? Another adventure in storytelling.

old photograph of my grandparents

What’s in a photograph?

A moment frozen in time? A feeling we don’t want to lose? A memory?

That’s me, in the bottom corner of the photo below. Those are my grandparents reading to me when I was  about three years old. 

I was too young to remember these moments, but Papaw appears to be seriously addressing storytime while grandma has a silly look on her face. I imagine she’s making a silly joke and this photo still makes me smile.

Thirty-five years have gone by since this moment was captured.

This photograph was printed in the 1980’s and long ago the negatives were lost.  The 4×6 paper copy remained and this weathered piece of paper was scanned and digitized; making it possible to share it online with you now.

The advancement of technology has revolutionized our daily lives. 

The entire process of photography has evolved. Now we are inundated with images on a constant basis. Storytelling is fundamentally different than it’s inception.

I’ve been a storyteller my whole life but the idea of telling stories without my camera only recently occured to me. I’ve thought of myself as a ‘photographer’ growing up in a world where images are everything.

The camera gave me the confidence to engage with individuals I found interesting.  It gave me an opportunity to tell stories and capture moments in time- both real and imagined.

But I’ve learned the conversations I have WHILE photographing are just as important as the finished product I create.

We lose the ability to interact authentically when we do all of our communicating through a screen. We lose our grip on reality when we enter into an echo chamber instead of sharing conversations with others who offer an alternate point of view.

It’s easy to disconnect, especially today- when we are constantly connected! 

Podcast = Storytelling in a digital age

Images are EVERYWHERE.  We make decisions constantly based on our visual impression. It’s part of what helped us survive in the beginning.

With the invention of social media, we are now comparing every moment of our lives to the snapshots of others.  Instead of connecting when we are online, so many of us are DISCONNECTING.

The idea of a podcast has been on my mind for a long while but I didn’t know where to start?!  But I had to start somewhere…

Starting with my Grandparents, Rubye and Max

My grandparents were born in the 1920’s and married one another 71 years ago. Through all of life’s challenges they remained faithful and loyal to one another.

When I hear their stories, I find myself comparing the differences in the way they were both brought up to the way we live now.  

My grandmother grew up on a farm, working hard alongside her siblings to help support her family. While my grandfather grew up the son of a machinist, a man who worked hard but was barely able to put enough food on the table.

They were married in 1948 and together build a life and a home for their 4 children. They remained committed to one another despite the trials and adversity of life throughout their 70 years together.

They remained strong when Rubye’s father took his own life. Together they mourned the loss of a child in the prime of his life; yet their faith in God and one another endured.

Listen to this series on the Podcast (links below).

Sun and Moon by Local Artist Lindsey Yankey

Our featured book of for the month is the beautifully illustrated and eloquently written children’s book the entire family will love!

I spoke with artist, Lindsey Yankey at the Strawberry Swing Holiday Market. Immediately taken in by her lovely illustrations, I wanted to take this book home with me!! But she only had one for display.  My daughter took Lindsey’s business card and taped it to her wall!

Here’s a synopsis of the book:

Sun and Moon

Sun and Moon have always held their own places in the sky, but after a lifetime of darkness Moon wants to trade. Sun agrees, but only if first Moon takes a careful look at his night, before making his final decision.

Follow Moon as he travels through the dark discovering enchanting animals and scenes unique to the nighttime, foxes hunting, children dreaming, lamplighters, and fireflies. Will Moon still wish to change places in the sky? Or will he realize the beauty of what he already has?

Fine details amidst bright bold mixed-media illustrations will capture readers of all ages in this story of discovery and appreciation.

The Five Love Languages : The Secret to Love That Lasts

Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, hosts a nationally syndicated daily radio program called A Love Language Minute that can be heard on more than 150 radio stations, as well as the weekly syndicated program Building Relationships with Gary Chapman. Both be heard on https://www.5lovelanguages.com

A New York Times Bestseller

The Five Love Languages is a consistent new York Times bestseller – with over 5 million copies sold and translated into 38 languages.  Chapman also authored the follow up books to the popular original Five Love Languages; The Five Love Languages for Men, The Five Love Languages of Children, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers.  Whether in a romantic relationship, or parenting children of different ages, The Five Love Languages series offers ways to convey and connect through love in the most important relationships in our lives.

Primary and Secondary Love Languages

According to Chapman’s theory built on research spent counseling couples and repeatedly observing the same patterns, each person has one primary and one secondary love language. Chapman suggests that to discover another person’s love language, one must observe the way they express love to others, and analyze what they request from their significant other most often. He theorizes that people tend to naturally give love in the way that they prefer to receive love, and better communication between couples or parents and children can be accomplished when one can demonstrate caring to the other person in the love language the recipient understands.

https://aspirace.com/how-to-speak-your-partners-love-language/

Get all 4 books on Kindle for one price:  https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Men-Teenagers-Children-ebook/dp/B075SSKD9G

Craig Sole Designs; Local Kansas City Business

Whatever your occasion, Craig Sole Designs & Co. create fresh floral designs & silk arrangements daily. Constructing beautiful bouquets, botanical pieces and sourcing our flowers from local growers whenever possible, we work to design your arrangement with great care and passion.

Check in with the website to get an idea for daily inspiration.

Contact them today for any of the following services:

  • place an order for pick up or delivery
  • schedule an appointment to design your wedding
  • discuss your next party or event
  • decorate your home or office for any occasion or holiday
  • celebrate the life of a loved one

Starting & Maintaining a Small Business

Before we began producing our podcast on launching your own business, we did a little digging in order to provide a few statistics and time tested tactics to help you establish your own small business.

The excerpt below was taken from The Balance Small Business written by Alyssa Gregory. and offers some great advice we’ll review in this episode.

‘There are more than 28 million small businesses in the United States, making up a whopping 99.7 percent of all U.S. businesses, according to the Small Business Administration. When you consider some of the most popular reasons to start a business, including having a unique business idea, designing a career that has the flexibility to grow with you, working toward financial independence, and investing in yourself — it’s no wonder that small businesses are everywhere.

Here are 10 steps that are required to start a business successfully. Take one step at a time, and you’ll be on your way to successful small business ownership.

Step 1: Do Your Research

Most likely you have already identified a business idea, so now it’s time to balance it with a little reality. Does your idea have the potential to succeed? You will need to run your business idea through a validation process before you go any further.

In order for a small business to be successful, it must solve a problem, fulfill a need or offer something the market wants.

There are a number of ways you can identify this need, including research, focus groups, and even trial and error. As you explore the market, some of the questions you should answer include:

  • Is there a need for your anticipated products/services?
  • Who needs it?
  • Are there other companies offering similar products/services now?
  • What is the competition like?
  • How will your business fit into the market?

Don’t forget to ask yourself some questions, too, about starting a business before you take the plunge.

Step 2: Make a Plan

You need a plan in order to make your business idea a reality. A business plan is a blueprint that will guide your business from the start-up phase through establishment and eventually business growth, and it is a must-have for all new businesses.

The good news is that there are different types of business plans for different types of businesses.

If you intend to seek financial support from an investor or financial institution, a traditional business plan is a must. This type of business plan is generally long and thorough and has a common set of sections that investors and banks look for when they are validating your idea.

If you don’t anticipate seeking financial support, a simple one-page business plan can give you clarity about what you hope to achieve and how you plan to do it. In fact, you can even create a working business plan on the back of a napkin, and improve it over time. Some kind of plan in writing is always better than nothing.

Step 3: Plan Your Finances

Starting a small business doesn’t have to require a lot of money, but it will involve some initial investment as well as the ability to cover ongoing expenses before you are turning a profit. Put together a spreadsheet that estimates the one-time startup costs for your business (licenses and permits, equipment, legal fees, insurance, branding, market research, inventory, trademarking, grand opening events, property leases, etc.), as well as what you anticipate you will need to keep your business running for at least 12 months (rent, utilities, marketing and advertising, production, supplies, travel expenses, employee salaries, your own salary, etc.).

Those numbers combined is the initial investment you will need.

Now that you have a rough number in mind, there are a number of ways you can fund your small business, including:

You can also attempt to get your business off the ground by bootstrapping, using as little capital as necessary to start your business. You may find that a combination of the paths listed above work best. The goal here, though, is to work through the options and create a plan for setting up the capital you need to get your business off the ground.

Step 4: Choose a Business Structure

Your small business can be a sole proprietorship, a partnership, a limited liability company (LLC) or a corporation. The business entity you choose will impact many factors from your business name, to your liability, to how you file your taxes.

You may choose an initial business structure, and then reevaluate and change your structure as your business grows and needs change.

Depending on the complexity of your business, it may be worth investing in a consultation from an attorney or CPA to ensure you are making the right structure choice for your business.

Step 5: Pick and Register Your Business Name

Your business name plays a role in almost every aspect of your business, so you want it to be a good one. Make sure you think through all of the potential implications as you explore your options and choose your business name.

Once you have chosen a name for your business, you will need to check if it’s trademarked or currently in use. Then, you will need to register it. A sole proprietor must register their business name with either their state or county clerk. Corporations, LLCs, or limited partnerships typically register their business name when the formation paperwork is filed.

Don’t forget to register your domain name once you have selected your business name. Try these options if your ideal domain name is taken.

Step 6: Get Licenses and Permits

Paperwork is a part of the process when you start your own business.

There are a variety of small business licenses and permits that may apply to your situation, depending on the type of business you are starting and where you are located. You will need to research what licenses and permits apply to your business during the start-up process.

Step 7: Choose Your Accounting System

Small businesses run most effectively when there are systems in place. One of the most important systems for a small business is an accounting system.

Your accounting system is necessary in order to create and manage your budget, set your rates and prices, conduct business with others, and file your taxes. You can set up your accounting system yourself, or hire an accountant to take away some of the guesswork. If you decide to get started on your own, make sure you consider these questions that are vital when choosing accounting software.

Step 8: Set Up Your Business Location

Setting up your place of business is important for the operation of your business, whether you will have a home office, a shared or private office space, or a retail location.

You will need to think about your location, equipment, and overall setup, and make sure your business location works for the type of business you will be doing. You will also need to consider if it makes more sense to buy or lease your commercial space.

Step 9: Get Your Team Ready

If you will be hiring employees, now is the time to start the process. Make sure you take the time to outline the positions you need to fill, and the job responsibilities that are part of each position. The Small Business Administration has an excellent guide to hiring your first employee that is useful for new small business owners.

If you are not hiring employees, but instead outsourcing work to independent contractors, now is the time to work with an attorney to get your independent contractor agreement in place and start your search.

Lastly, if you are a true solopreneur hitting the small business road alone, you may not need employees or contractors, but you will still need your own support team. This team can be comprised of a mentor, small business coach, or even your family, and serves as your go-to resource for advice, motivation and reassurance when the road gets bumpy.

Step 10: Promote Your Small Business

Once your business is up and running, you need to start attracting clients and customers. You’ll want to start with the basics by writing a unique selling proposition (USP) and creating a marketing plan. Then, explore as many small business marketing ideas as possible so you can decide how to promote your business most effectively.

Once you have completed these business start-up activities, you will have all of the most important bases covered. Keep in mind that success doesn’t happen overnight. But use the plan you’ve created to consistently work on your business, and you will increase your chances of success.

Gift Giving as a form of Communication

Identify your Love language

Giving Gifts doesn’t need to be difficult!

 

 

 

Support local business whenever you can! Putting our money BACK into the Kansas City economy is a win-win by supporting our own communities!

Parenting in a Digital Age

Parenting in a Digital Age

All at once, my little girl is seven.

Just like that… she is nearing the end of her childhood and I feel as though I’ve missed everything. Now classmates are showing up with cell phones?

WHAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat!?

Silly me, caught off guard, I thought I had more time?

Recently I attended a talk put together by the local PTA. Here I listened to reputable, professional sources sharing some ground rules we can implement that will make a difference TODAY.

Join me by educating YOURSELF!

Follow the research on Brain development-Everything in moderation

“Try reading a book while doing a crossword puzzle that’s what you’re doing every time you use the Internet.” says author Nicolas Carr

We all know the brain isn’t fully developed until our mid-twenties. But until recently, something I didn’t consider was the cumulative impact mobile devices are having on my daughter’s developing brain.

The pre-frontal cortex is the LAST part of the brain to develop {the organizing, planning, decision making, focusing part of the brain}. It’s the part of the brain that requires LOTS of sleep and LOTS of time in the real world to develop properly.

quote about the price of everything

Screens stimulate our central nervous system, creating an emotional reaction when we turn them off. Neurotherapist Susan Dunaway compared this effect to the likes of a merry-go-round. You feel out of control when you ‘jump off’ of the merry-go-round aka. screen.

I’ve ‘tested‘ this myself… unintentionally proving the point by pulling the screen away from my daughter when she doesn’t listen to me.

A full blown meltdown ensues.

{Yes, some Sundays… I have been known to give her the ipad in the morning for waaaay longer than I should…}

Eyeballs are important!

When I close down my laptop, I’m acutely aware of the headache that’s been rising. My eyes ache and the world is blurry.

In order for our eyeballs to develop properly, we need sunlight! It’s silly simple when I think about it. But everything moves so fast these days. I haven’t really considered how the screens in my life might adversely affect my daughter as she grows up.

Making eye contact; Good for eyeballs; Good for micro-interactions

Feeling known and knowing others; Relationships take time to develop and eye contact is an important component of micro-interactions with others. These micro-interactions are important for our social brain to develop properly.

Myopia- nearsightedness- has increased by 20% in the last few decades!! Wowza.. that’s a dramatic increase and a direct result of mobile screens.

Our children are build to learn and play. When we hand them a screen we are limiting their imagination, handicapping the brain and hurting their eyeballs.

Establish Boundaries; Here are the ground rules

AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE. Set these boundaries for yourself as well.

I am taking the advice  of Natasha Burgert, whom reviewed 3 boundaries that are important for reducing risk of our children engaging in risky, deadly dangerous behaviors online during adolescence. Detective Moore from the Overland Park Police Department reviewed some scary statistics… I’ll spare the details for this blog post.

Believe me, you’ll thank me later. Just start here.

rules for technology boundariesLet me simplify 3 easy rules- 

  1. No Tech at the Table. Family meals are a valued ritual that connect us to one another and build reliancy. FOUR times a week, 18 minutes. That’s all. PB&J is ok!! It’s the time that matters.
  2. No tech in the bathroom OR bedroom. {Yes, this goes for you & me too. You’ll live & sleep better!} We all sacrifice sleep for screen time. Be the example and you’ll be more present & productive during the day.
  3. Just because it’s mobile doesn’t mean it’s mobile!! Establish expectations & limitations. We shouldn’t ALWAYS be on our screens when waiting in line, at the doctor’s office or at the RED LIGHT- try starting a conversation instead?!

Where do we go from here?

  • Stay Engaged
  • Stay Involved
  • Stay Educated

And what about our good friend.. social media???

Establish age limits that you can abide by in your house.

Personally, I’m still working through MY challenge with managing social media… I don’t think it’s a healthy place for the adolescent brain. So I plan to spare my daughter the option of having a choice in the matter.

This summer I got back to engaging online.

Each and every time I get online, I actively choose to make a positive impact. Get online with positive intentions! Spend time online WELL setting and achieving small goals while you are there.

I set a small goal of positively interacting with at least THREE people each time I am online. Give yourself time limits on social media, achieve your goal then log out!

So… I’m getting offline and engaging!

Like RIGHT NOW..  after I hit publish, I’m turning off this computer, throwing my phones in the drawer and starting a dance party with my little girl…

Because tomorrow WILL come… and she won’t be so little-

xoxo adrienne signing off

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*Resources:

Dr. Natasha Burgert is a KC based pediatrician, National Spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics and a member of the AAP’s counsel of Communication and Media. She shares her expertise in child health as a regular contributor to NBC’s News Parent Tool Kit, US News and World Report, and KcKidsDoc.com.

Susan Dunaway is a Neurotherapist and board certified in neurofeedback, a specialized technique that improves the brain’s ability to communicate, task and use energy efficiently. She helps clients at her clinic, Amend Neurocounseling and speaks occasionally about technology’s impact on society through the Face2FaceMovement.

Books you should check out:

Websites for Reference:

Common Sense Media – Reviews on Apps, Video Games and other research that will help you navigate as new media gains popularity.

Screenagers – Great information for tips and research. Find contracts to hold your child accountable with their smart phones

What determines love?

What is love?

Is it just that tingly feeling you get when you think of someone? We tend to prioritize romantic love but is this really the most important, influential love in our lives?

Romantic love vs. Parental love

As parents, our love for our children changes throughout their lives. We learn to adapt to their needs, wants and demands as they go through life’s challenges. It’s not what anyone would call ‘easy’.

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